Monday, December 28, 2009
I wanted to share a few links:
1. A business reporter with Newsday (which covers Long Island, NY) included me in her column about motivating employees at small businesses.
2. I found this review of my book published in the South China Morning Post. I didn't even know they were working on a review. So, if someone from the South China Morning Post reads this blog, thank you very much for the excellent review. Actually, I think this is my favorite review of my book.
3. I appeared on the Career Solutions radio show a couple of weeks ago. The podcast has not posted yet. However, here is the interview I did with them in the summer. Many of the same thoughts, the difference is that it was hot and humid outside when I said them.
Have a Happy New Year.
Monday, December 21, 2009
A client asked me to answer the following questions for their conference publicity. So, I thought I would share. Have a great week.
1. Why do you do what you do (three or four sentences)?
I always tell people the speaking business chose me. When I started, I had no idea people spoke for a living. I was just having fun, performing some improvisation games and talking about teamwork and creativity. If someone offered me a chicken lunch and a paperweight with a clock in it, I was thrilled. My wife says I found a way to combine my two passions: making people laugh and telling people what I think.
2. What is your most important professional goal (two-three sentences)?
My goal is to always have fun and be passionate about what I do. Everything else will take care of itself. I don’t have a job. I have a passion. From that passion, I am rewarded each day.
3. What, when and where was your first paid job (two sentences)?
I delivered a community newspaper, which came out once a week. I think I started the paper route around the fifth or sixth grade, and I gave it up during high school.
4. Your personal philosophy of life (three or four sentences)?
Stay hydrated. Always use sunscreen. Always recycle. Give back. Eat lots of fruit. Leave things better than when you found them. And everything goes better with laughter.
5. Your favorite quote:
“It is not the critic who counts, not the one who points out how the strong man stumbled or how the doer of deeds might have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred with sweat and dust and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions and spends himself in a worthy cause and who, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.”
Theodore Roosevelt, 26th President of the United States of America
6. What did you want to be when you grew up?
At different times in my childhood, I wanted to be a doctor, comedian and a writer. As Meat Loaf once said, “Two out of three ain’t bad.”
Last book read:
I read about 37 books a day. Most of them are about a large red dog, furry monsters, trucks, firefighters, a curious monkey, magic tree houses, dinosaurs, and other assorted talking cars and animals.
We attend the State Fair of Texas every year. Sometimes, we go twice.
Favorite fair food:
The first thing I eat at the fair is a Fletcher’s corny dog. Everything else comes second.
Best Vacation Spot:
I have to add some specifics.
Best ski vacation: Whistler, British Columbia.
Best Island vacation: Kauai
Best European vacation: Scotland or Italy
Best golf vacation: Pinehurst, North Carolina or Myrtle Beach, South Carolina.
Best California vacation: Carmel, Sonoma County or San Diego.
Best theme park vacation: Disney World.
Most recent “best” vacation: Washington, D.C.
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
A colleague of mine, Mohamed Tohami, has written a new book called the “The Pharaohs' Code”. Tohami interviewed me on his podcast a few months ago. I had a great time on the podcast. My favorite part was answering questions from listeners around the world, including the woman who may or may not have been screaming at her cat. You will have to listen to the podcast to see what that means.
You can check out Tohami's book here:http://www.ThePharaohsCode.com/special.html
Here is what Tohami sent me about his book:
"It's the latest trend in the science of success, even though it delivers a message from 5000 years ago – a message that contains invaluable wisdom that has been true over the entire human history.
"When he entered it, he saw a narrow passageway that goes upward between huge stone blocks, exuding the ancient smell of mystery and magic.
"And he stood there for some time to observe the spirit and the meaning of the place.Then he realized an important insight. He felt that the Pharaohs had given him a message to carry to the world from 50 centuries ago. And the message is that we can find our joy and happiness, and we can build an everlasting success only if we strive to stand out, like the Pyramid, make a difference and serve other people in every way we can."
"And now, in his new book “The Pharaohs’ Code”, Tohami reveals amazing secrets of the Pharaohs that will inspire you to find joy in your life, and hence make a difference and leave a legacy that ensures you, like the Pharaohs, will stand out and be long remembered in the hearts and minds of others."
Here is the link to Amazon: The Pharaohs' Code. Send him an e-mail that you purchased his book and he will give you access to the interviews on www.60minutestobetterlife.com.
Monday, March 9, 2009
I was in a new job in a new city. I had very few contacts, no prospects, and barely any savings. Hanging up the phone, I took a deep breath and looked around my very sparse one bedroom apartment. I knew what I had to do: I grabbed my harmonica.
When I arrived at the newspaper's building, employees were packing up boxes; commiserating, a few were crying, and most were basically trying to figure out what they would do next. I headed to the back loading dock where the local media had encamped.
Let me pick up the story with the description I wrote in my book, Make the Right Choice:
"For no other reason than to prove that I was back in control of my happiness and attitude, I stood on the back dock of the newspaper in front of the television news cameras and made up a blues song about losing my job. I barely know how to play one note on the harmonica. It didn't matter. I just started making up lyrics about losing my job. The cameras started clicking. The television cameras zoomed in for better focus. I performed for a few minutes until someone pulled me off the dock and said to me, "You will never work in this town again." I swear someone said this to me. I am not making this up."
Yep, I just lost my job. Yep, I had very little money. Yep, I was playing a very poor rendition of the blues on my harmonica. It was one of the best days of my life. We have the choice to wake up in the morning and be bitter, frustrated and stressed. We also have the choice to be happy, energized and passionate. I chose the latter. Every normal, sane person given the choice would choose passion and happiness. Why do we so often choose to be bitter and stressed? Sometimes, we allow something out of our control to decide for us. We allow the economy, the situation, someone's words; or someone's actions make the choice. If it was truly our choice, we would choose happiness.
Anyway, back to the story from my book:
"I decided I was going to choose happiness. My blues performance made the front page of the Fort Worth newspaper and two local newscasts. Thinking back on it now, I think my performance made the paper and the news broadcasts because I chose my attitude. When someone loses their job, you don't expect them to stand in front of news cameras and perform an off-key and somewhat comical blues performance.
You see, the day was a life-changing experience. I didn't know what I was going to do next. I didn't know where I was going to live or work. I did know that I wanted to have ownership again for my happiness and attitude."
We are all going through a difficult time. We can either let it beat us down and become stressed and frustrated. Or, we can choose to be passionate and energized and find a way to succeed. We need to focus more on our customers and each other. We need to live and work more in the moment. We need to have more fun. What do you plan on doing? I am going to grab my harmonica.
Please read the rest of my Fall newsletter here.
Saturday, February 21, 2009
Focus is the start of good communication.
- We must increase our focus when dealing with employees, managers and customers.
- Listening is the most important tool in communication. Listening will allow us to be better leaders, teammates, and communicators. Listening also increases creativity.
- Good listening is a choice.
In the Moment
- We must be open and flexible to change.
- We have no control over many things.
- We always control our attitude and how we react to change.
- By being in the moment when we communicate, we are more prepared for whatever happens next. Being prepared allows us to be successful and more productive.
Three C's: The goal is to communicate to your audience effectively so they are comfortable, confident and in control.
- Be a leader and help the other person be comfortable, confident and in control.
- Provide the right details at the right time.
- Be patient.
- Be flexible.
- Be open to ideas.
- Define constant communication.
- Speak up when something is bothering you.
Be more detailed. Everyone needs a different amount of details to effectively communicate. Give the right amount of details at the right time.
- Understand we are all different in how we communicate.
- Some people are chit-chat people and some are down to business. Communicate differently to each employee. Treat them as individuals and not as a group.
- Each employee will respond to different ways of communication.
- Be patient and positive.
Create a 50/50 partnership. Involve the employees in the communication process. If the employee has ownership and is involved, they care. When the employee cares, they have passion.
- Ask the question: How do I make the other people around me successful? This is the hardest part of effective communication. Most people come in to work and say, "What can everyone do for me today?"
- The dynamic shift is asking the question, "What can I do for the people around me to make them successful?" Ask the question. Answer the question. Act on the answer.
Stay in the Game
- Anyone can quit. The only way to be successful is to stay in the game. If you stay in the game, you might have to learn something new; get out of your comfort zone; communicate differently; or try a new approach. If you quit, you are guaranteed failure. If you stay in the game, you will fins success.
- Create opportunity for people to communicate. Match the opportunity with positive support. When was the last time you asked your employees what they needed to be happy?